“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often” – Winston Churchill
One small change can at times do the miracles in your life. In fact, one change can actually change your whole life. Mahatma Gandhi had just 1 change in his life and that was to practice truth in all situations, and advocated that others do the same. This single change made his name a synonym for the truth.
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
Well, we all sometimes think of achieving something big in life but mostly, we set rather grand goals for ourselves. We make spontaneous decisions and declare milestones, which we later realize are too far away to reach. Sad of-course, but failure inevitably follows.
So the question is really what is that which pulls us back? Despite of willingness to adopt to change, we fail to follow that. Why ? The question is why change is so difficult? Here is your check list and the giant reasons you can blame on :
What is it making change so hard?
Let’s understand and try to answer this question together. When you go through this, be honest with yourself and check if any of these has been holding you back ever in your life to do something you wanted to do but could not.
#1 Fear of failure
It seems that failure tends to be more public than success. Or at least that’s what we perceive it to be.
Fear of failure does not let us follow our heart. Trying something new can bring something good but it can make you fail as well, no matter what the reason is. This is one of the major reason, all of us do not dare to do anything new especially when we are being seen my many. For example – When you are being seen or you feel hesitant trying a new game. Public speaking is another good example to understand that we all somewhere get that fear of failure, especially in front of the others. Do you agree with that?
#2 Subconscious Mind
If you look into your daily routine, it is full of the activities which are based on habits. From morning till the night, you do most of things out of habit. Don’t believe? Think about all of it – eating, bathing, work, driving, reading, sleeping or even breathing – how much effort you make to do these? Do you in-fact, think while eating that today ‘you got to eat’? It’s all because we have been practising these things from years and now they are in habit or say in our subconscious mind.
It’s the job of your subconscious mind to ensure that you respond exactly the way you are programmed.
Remember the first time you drove the car? Today if you can drive that while talking to a person next to you or on phone, that is because your subconscious knows how to drive the car and you do not have to do any extra effort for that.
Change would mean something that your subconscious is unaware of and then it becomes hard to do something you have not practised.
#3 Human Behaviour
The resistance to change is universal. Change invites animosity and tension. In order to make any transformational change, you need to change your behaviour and that is never easy. To do the things we have always done, is our natural behaviour. Going to a new restaurant, club, college, meeting or party would always makes you alert. Living with the known would be any person’s first and foremost choice. It is an absolute natural behaviour of any human being to push back anything which is new to the routine.
#4 It’s Challenging
Change stretches us out of our comfort zone. Comfort is something we all want- isn’t it? There are few of us who love to be challenged but not everyone is keen to jump on everything or anything new at all. To bring the change in your life, you might need to learn new things, do some extra effort, and break your routine, work hard and so on. Your change can turn into a struggle and in-turn a challenge to accept – one of the biggest reason people avoid change.
Above mentioned are the most common and prominent reasons why most of the people fail to bring change in their life.
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Once you have understood and identified the reason(s) which are obstructing your way, you can look for the next article which is going to chalk down the strategies for embracing the change in your life.